Holding Yourself While Holding Another: Self-Worth and Stability in Love

After a month of grounding into our body, voice, and root, it’s time to ask:

What happens to your sense of worth when you’re in connection with others?

In both Tantra and Vedic Astrology, we learn that relationship is a mirror and that it reflects not only our desires and values, but also our fears, wounds, and patterns. The way we navigate closeness tells us a lot about how stable we feel inside.

When we’re not rooted in self-worth, relationships can feel like:

• A constant performance to earn love
• A rollercoaster of seeking approval or avoiding rejection
• A drain on our energy or a battlefield for our unmet needs

But when we’re connected to our value and when we feel stable in our Muladhara (root), empowered in our Second House, and clear in our throat chakra, we show up in relationship with more authenticity, clarity, and grounded compassion.

The Vedic Astrology Perspective: The 7th House and Libra

In Vedic Astrology, relationships live in the 7th House, ruled by Libra and influenced by Venus.

This house governs:

• Partnerships (romantic and business)
• Harmony and balance
• Contracts, negotiations, and mutual exchange

But here’s the paradox: the 7th house is directly opposite the 1st house (self, identity). In order to relate well, we must know who we are first.

When our self-worth is low, we may:

• Merge too quickly
• Over-accommodate and lose ourselves
• Avoid conflict at the expense of truth

When we’re anchored in ourselves, we’re more able to:

• Set healthy boundaries
• Communicate needs without guilt
• Offer love without self-abandonment

Tantra and the Sacred Art of Boundaries

In Tantra, boundaries are not walls—they’re containers. They hold our energy. They define where we end and another begins. And most importantly, they make intimacy possible.

Here’s what Tantra teaches about boundaries:

• They’re an act of love—for self and other
• They protect your life force
• They allow truth to flow freely
• They help transform reactivity into responsiveness

This is why I love weaving in Nonviolent Communication (NVC)—because boundaries aren’t just energetic, they’re also verbal. We must be able to express needs, set limits, and stay connected.

Tantric + NVC Practices for Sacred Boundaries

Embodied Yes/No Practice – Stand or sit. Breathe into your body. Ask yourself a yes-or-no question. Notice the sensations that arise. Practice trusting your body’s signals.

Boundary Breath – On the inhale, imagine pulling your energy inward. On the exhale, expand your presence outward with confidence. Repeat until you feel centered.

NVC Sentence Stem Practice

• “When I see/hear ___, I feel ___ because I need ___. Would you be willing to ___?”
• Use this to express a boundary or need with clarity and compassion.

Journaling Prompt – What boundary am I ready to set—not to push someone away, but to honor the truth of who I am?

Today’s Thought Exercises:

1. Where Do You Lose Yourself in Relationship? Is it through silence? Overgiving? Avoiding conflict? What does your pattern say about your self-worth?
2. What Does Sacred Connection Look Like to You? What kind of connection honors your wholeness—not just your wounds?
3. Can You Stay with Yourself While Holding Another? How might your relationships shift if you trusted that your truth is lovable?

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And in our upcoming Full Moon Ceremony, we’ll focus on releasing old relational wounds, reclaiming sovereignty, and practicing sacred connection from a place of inner stability.